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Anne Hathaway discusses coping with hate

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Anne Hathaway is certainly no stranger to being on the receiving end of viral vitriol. He had a full episode in his career, which began in 2013, specifically called the “Hathahat” period. For years, following Oscar’s undeservedly notorious acceptance speech for her work on “Les Miserables,” the actress couldn’t put up with a single interview without having to actively address an overwhelming audience that fiercely hated her.

While Hathaway herself admitted that the speech was overly saccharine—an understandable consequence of trying to compensate for social anxiety and a pinch of fraudulent syndrome—she still in no way qualified to be overtly viewed as some kind of indelible sin. Especially considering all the truly awful behavior that (still) happens at award ceremonies.

Why people choose to disparage Hathaway is actually his own argument, but how he chose to grow out of the experience is really worth talking about. Not only has she clearly rebounded career-wise—only this year, festival darling and “The Devil Wears Prada” has risen to worthy fashion icon status—she’s also managed to craft some true words of wisdom that can help others. create a less hateful, more loving world…spoken by someone who really rang the bell and had to learn the hard way.

According to ELLE’s written acceptance speech for the 29th Women in Hollywood event, the veteran actress took some time to share a story about a little girl “ages 8-11” she overheard, after generously praising the other female icons who attended. he was lamenting to his mother about another little girl who (probably) “hated her own mouth”.

“I think the language of hate begins with the self,” Hathaway said. “I felt it was important to bring this concept up because … I really felt for that young, young little girl who had her first burst of self-loathing, which is something most of us understand. And we don’t have enough time to discuss the myriad causes of the violent language of hatred and the imperative need to put an end to it.”

Hathaway then addressed how her self-disgust manifested and grew when it surfaced on social media nearly 10 years ago.

“We have been given the opportunity to look at the language of hate from a new perspective. In terms of context—this has been a language I’ve been using with myself since I was 7 years old. And when that self-inflicted pain suddenly comes back to you, let’s say, in the entire volume of the internet… It’s something,” he explained.

“As mothers of young children,” she continued, “I firmly believe that we are born experiencing love. And then, in a culture of misplaced hatred, we create the unhealed hurt and the byproduct toxicity of both.”

As the effects of an unhealed society lifted her ugly face in Hathaway’s direction, she realized that the only way to take away her power was to “no longer give her room, live in fear of her, and not speak her language for any reason.” To everyone. Including me.”

And this is a really simple yet profound truth. If we want to live in a better world, we must first make room for good in our own hearts. In theory, it takes very little effort to talk to ourselves and others from a compassionate place. Yet in practice it requires a conscious choice.

“There is a difference between existence and behavior. You can judge behavior. You may or may not forgive the behavior. But you have no right to judge someone for existing, and especially to hate. And if you do, you’re not where you are.” Again, this is something he learned firsthand.

Hathaway ended with a self-described “controversial optimism”: “I believe that good The news about learning about hate is that the person who learns it may forget to learn it. There is a brain there. I hope they give themselves a chance to learn about love again.”

“To that little girl – indeed to all young people,” the speech said, “I wish I could tell you that the world is in a good place … you will live unaffected by inequality, prejudice, hatred and autocracy. We will need you … Starting with themselves, contributing to a culture of love in all aspects of our society.” We need people who have learned to reject widespread hatred.

“Please darling, don’t hate your mouth. Love your life.”

You can watch a shortened version of Hathaway’s speech below. Unlike 2013, this is a must watch for all the right reasons.